If you have been cheated on and are angry and heartbroken, do you truly believe you are entitled to those feelings? Has anyone ever told you that you should not be so hurt and that your deceiving partner was not such a bad person? But you still stood by your feelings and cheaterhater attitude.

Being betrayed by someone you love, someone you thought loved you. That is disappointing. Being heartbroken as a result of betrayal is not supposed to be a surprising state. People who cheat are hurtful and are definitely the villains in the love stories they star in. Agreed? I certainly believed that the vast majority of human beings agreed with me on this. Then, I became not so sure as I recently discovered the pro-cheating frenzy out there. My everyone-is-with-me-on-the-evils-of-cheating cherry was then popped, and I have a feeling I was one of the last few virgins. How many of these former virgins decide to view cheating in a new light and perhaps, embrace it? How many decide to remain cheaterhaters for the rest of their lives? I decided to remain a cheaterhater, and I am not afraid of the possibility of our kind becoming a dying breed one day.

Not long ago, I was made aware of a website that facilitates extramarital affairs. That is just…awe-inspiring; some people are capitalizing on infidelity and lies. Apparently, this website has been around for quite a while. I think people who attempt to justify cheating have a serious character deficit. So I do not know to characterize those who operate websites for cheaters. Perhaps, severely deficient in heart?

How do people justify cheating? I am sure many of you have heard the usual “I wasn’t getting it from my wife, so…” or “My boyfriend doesn’t care about my feelings, but Mr. XYZ does.” or even “If you can have your cake and eat it too, why not? I want both of them in my life, satisfying my different needs.” What about this justification: We must strive to create a progressive, liberal society where we should not moralize everything. Now that is a fascinating one. Maybe, these cheating services use all of these justifications I have mentioned plus “Life is short. Have an affair.”

Let me be honest about my philosophy of life. I am a secular humanist and a radical thinker. I have experienced significant changes in my thinking over the last few years; I do not see casual sex, pornography and escort services as moral issues anymore. For many people, these are extremely immoral and are considered to be some of the evils human beings have constructed and contaminated our existence with. Sexuality has always been moralized. To each their own.

I see problems, health concerns in particular, with casual sex and the sex industry, but for me, they do not carry the moral weight they used to during my more conservative years. However, cheating is and will always be a moral issue for me. Cheating is not the little white lie you tell your sensitive friend about her hair looking fine when it actually resembles a bird’s nest. It is not the protective lie you tell your kid about the monsters that catch little kids who want to play outside at night. Cheating is deception in its darkest, truest sense. Lying to one’s lover and sneaking behind their back like a thief in the night will never cease to be a moral issue, for deception is the place where any progressive mind must draw a line. Sadly, the providers of cheating services and those who use and/or condone these services did not even pause at deception.

If you have been cheated on and are angry and heartbroken, know that you are more than entitled to your feelings. Moreover, regardless of how progressive we could all be, how many deception promoting websites the Internet gets pregnant with, and how many millions of justifications cheaters and their supporters could think of, know that there are people who believe and will always believe that deception is an unacceptable act.