With all that life dishes out to us, at sometime or another we will experience a time when we are alone. It's important to become comfortable with yourself. This initial step will help you find the self-confidence that you will need in order to manage being on your own. There is nothing wrong with being alone, as it allows one the freedom to explore new adventures and activities that may not be as easy while you are juggling both a career and a spouse/partner. It's important to see a counselor that can help you with your fears/issues should this become overwhelming for you.
As a way of helping to diminish those alone-time fears, here is a short list of techniques that a person can use. Shake off the fear of loneliness, so that it doesn't become a major issue in your life.
Find an activity that you really enjoy; something that isn't a solitary activity. Ideally where you can meet a lot of people. There are tons of community groups; for hobbyists, sporting buffs to name a few. Joining a group is a great way to meet people with similar interests. Doing something that you like to do will make you happy, increase your chances of making friends and increase your feelings of self-worth.
Animals can be a great source of companionship. Having a dog, cat or any animal that relies on us for their care, can make us feel truly loved and wanted. If you don't own a pet, then help out at the local animal shelter or borrow a family/friend's pet and go out for walks. Spending time with an animal or pet can help us to feel better and can be a positive in any life whether we're alone or not.
Helping others is a great way to be mutually beneficial. There are many people out there who could benefit greatly from you giving some of your time. Community help of different kinds can give you a source of pride, help yourself a sense of self-value, and can provide long lasting friendships.
Keep your negative thoughts at bay by countering each negative thought with a positive. Allow realism and postive thought to take the place of the thoughts that make you feel lonely or depressed. Just because you happen to be alone at this time in your life, is no reason to think that you will always be alone. Unless you are gifted with ESP, there is no way to predict the future with one hundred percent accuracy; so keep an open mind.
Sometimes it sucks being alone, but there are always worse things or circumstances that you could be in. Try to remind yourself at the low points, that your life and your situation could be much more difficult. If you need help doing this, look around at friends or others whose lives are a lot more complex or challenging and you will soon begin to realize that even though you are alone, it's not as bad as all that.
Take action; sitting around and doing nothing but feeling sorry for yourself is the worst possible way for the lonely and negative thoughts to feed. Go out and do something that you like to do. In addition, take it one day at a time and stay committed in trying to solve your problem. Remember that it's a process that won't happen over night. Do constructive and productive things with your down-time and your newly found life and freedoms. Even if you are alone, you will begin to cherish instead of dreading those quiet times. You will begin to discover a whole new level of strengths that it never occurred to you that you would have.