Do you lie awake at night wondering if your partner is going to come home late again? Maybe they are home but inattentive to you, and you just shrug it off to yet another bad day at the office.

Your nagging feelings of doubt, betrayal, and your general unease probably signify the fact your partner is cheating on you or thinking about it.  Everyday people get married or start relationships, sometimes for the wrong reasons, loneliness, sexual need, or just companionship, the thing human’s don’t take into consideration when they start a relationship is what their gut says.
 
Have you ever thought, “I should have listened to my gut on that one?” our hearts aren’t the only instrument leading the brain.  Our body is created to be in tune with the world around us, intuition is just another way for our brain to say, “Hey wait a minute, maybe we better look at this again before we make a permanent life altering decision.” Intuition is the key to being able to stop and think before we make a mistake, don’t put it aside listen to it.

For example I met my ex-husband on a whim, a dare over him being the smooth suave guy he said he was, when I met him my gut said, “Ok nice guy, now move on he’s not for you.”  Had I listened to my gut instead of following my heart I would have saved myself several years of heartache and betrayal.  We were married in 1998 and he promptly moved me to a new city 700miles from my family and home, then for the first year remained in my home city without me, while I was a work from home wife, with no drivers license and no car and no way to get around in the new city other than by taxi.  I saw my husband on the occasional weekend and on long weekends when he basically had to have his arm twisted to come home, again my gut said “ Get out, he’s got someone there and you’re being an idiot.”  I chose to once again listen to my heart figuring I loved him and was just being a jealous, lonely wife.  He returned the following year to stay in our new town, after much argument and proceeded to start our new life.  All was good until we changed directions and he went to work part time as a security guard, where he was partnered with several different women.  Again I thought I was being the jealous wife, but as it turned out my jealousy was justified as he was having multiple affairs.  Over the course of our marriage, I figured he loved me enough to never lie to me, and I had asked him on several occaisions if he was cheating on me, to which of course he denied it.  It wasn’t until his last affair that things changed, and due to circumstances and a miscarriage by his current mistress did he finally tell me the truth, he still denies having other affairs, but it has been verified by several of the women he slept with over the course of our marriage that he was in fact cheating, from the year after we were married until we divorced 10 years later.

Our gut is an important part of our body and keeps our heart in check.  If you’re in doubt and you think your partner is cheating, follow your gut.  If you still don’t know, hire a Private investigator, or start looking into things yourself. Does your partner leave the room when their cell phone rings?  Do they delete their message logs on a regular basis, or lock their cell phone so you can’t use it or view it? Do they stay up late hours or work late nights?  Do they spend a lot of time at a “friends” ,  or perhaps at a friend of a friends?

Habits are hard to break; an individual who is a cheater will likely reoffend.  Look to their past as well for clues, perhaps they are pre-disposed to this bad behaviour, in my ex-husbands case his father was a womanizer and had multiple affairs in his 25 year marriage to my ex-husband’s mother.

Remember nagging feelings of doubt don’t just surface for no reason. Look into them and hopefully your days will be much happier than mine were.