Divorce is devastating. No question. It can be extremely troubling for friends of a divorcing couple who find themselves at odds trying to remain friends of both. Here are some tips on how you can stay neutral and keep your friendship intact.

1. Talk to both of your friends on an individual basis and let them know that you are going to work to remain neutral on the subject. Don't forget to let them know that you value both of them as friends even though their relationship has ended.

2. Spend time with both friends at separate times. Call them and keep in touch. This will let them know by your actions that you truly do value your friendship with each of them. As well, it will let them know that you're there for them without prejudice.

3. Never bad-mouth one to the other. You will end up losing both friendships. In a divorce, trust is often questioned, you don't want to become the person that cannot keep a confidence.

4. Let your friends know that they must not bad-mouth the other in your presence. They need to know that you're not on some sort of a fishing expedition for the other. You need to find some other common ground and conversation other than adding to the problems.

5. When planning a get-together where you would have previously invited both, consult with them and let them know that it is your intention to extend the invitation to the both of them. It serves two purposes. It allows them both to be prepared for meeting up with their former spouse at a social gathering and it also lets them know that you respect and care for both of them and their feelings.