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Wanting to bring back some of the sizzle back into your sex life? Does your sex life make you pick out your next ceiling colour for the bedroom while you’re making love? Do you wish for the old days when sex was fun and you shared a special enthusiasm for each others’ company? If so, your first thought may be to terminate the relationship. But, what if your relationship is long-term? What if you are married? What if you really do love your partner?
There are things you can do! Don’t despair….if you are unhappy in the bedroom; it’s important to know that ending a marriage or a relationship is the last thing you should be considering. Instead take some steps that will spice up your sex life. Doing so may not only improve your intimacy, but it may also do wonders for your relationship in general.
There are four easy yet surefire ways to spice things up in your bedroom.
Don’t be shy! It’s easy…check these out!!
FOREPLAY - When you do have sex, what happens? Do you and your partner adopt a “git ‘er done” kind of attitude? If you do, that may be a huge problem. Lots of couples don’t realize that intimacy is more than just about having sex. It’s the whole enchilada….the holding hands, the trust, the respect, copping a feel here and there and the hugs…daily things that sometimes get lost in the shuffle. It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship with your partner. If you rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good chance that it will actually fail.
If you and your partner don’t already engage in foreplay, start right away….do NOT delay. Time’s a’wastin’….remember that foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Call your lover, send a steamy text message, or a suggestive handwritten note expressing your desires to get intimate with them later on and what you intend doing to them.
BE SPONTANEOUS - Asking if your partner wants to be intimate with you first before you start making your moves can actually make sex seem more like a chore than something that should bring you pleasure. The next time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask first. Just lead your partner there. In fact, who needs a bedroom?
Know that being spontaneous is about more than not talking about sex first. Ways that you can be spontaneous with your partner is to have sex at a different time, date, or place. By the way, if you’ve been practicing suggestion number one…..you won’t have any problem moving on the step 2….it’s a natural progression!
TALK ABOUT YOUR FANTASIES - One of the biggest reasons why couples have problems with sex is because one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled. If that is the case with you? Does your partner know what you like or what you want to get out of being intimate? If not, it is time for you to let them know.
Be sure to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires. What would you like to try in the bedroom? In addition to expressing your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, don’t get so caught up in your own that you forget to let your partner do the same. Remember that both of you should walk away from an intimate encounter satisfied.
EXPERIMENT - Put some zip in your doo-dah; try out some new and exciting things. Again…if you have been putting parts 1-3 into play and not just reading about them, your partner will be more than receptive to your suggestions. For starters, you can try a new sex position. This may not only lead to extra pleasure, but fun and excitement. Sex toys, romantic or adult videos, and role playing are other good ideas for experimenting in the bedroom. Next time one of the girls from the office invites you to a sex party…go for it. Take your credit card and spend a little and get a lot of new ideas!
Remember that experimenting in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy, but be sure to use your best judgment. It may be a wise decision to first discuss making changes with your partner, as you will not want to make him or her feel uncomfortable….and…they may have some suggestions of their own.
Okay now that you have some ideas; time to take action…. So what are you waiting for? Get out that lingerie and leather and prepare for some steamy one-on-one time!
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