Finding out that you are the third wheel in anyromantic relationship is heartbreaking to say the least. You’ve probably spent sometime least thinking about the possibility of a long-term future with thisperson. The initial feeling is betrayal of your trust. It will eventually leadto jealousy of the other person because you feel as though you have investedyourself emotionally in this relationship and you feel that you deserve thereturn on the investment. The truth of the matter, regardless of your emotionalattachment to this individual, you must confront the reality that yoursignificant other has not been honest with you. Bottom line. Take no prisoners.No negotiations.

In the beginning,we are less likely to see warning signs because we are in a fog of positive anddreamy emotions. But they’re there, we just don’t notice them. Now you know, sowhat are you going to do? Most will wrestle with their own personal values;especially when there is a marriage or children involved. You must resolve withyourself that there will be certain things and issues at which point you andyour needs will have to take a back seat. There is the ever-present likelihoodof your significant other going outside of the relationship when the going getstough. If one has a history of stepping out on their spouse generally thatperson suffers from very low self esteem and this has manifested itself ininfidelity. The lack of self esteem has probably not been resolved so neitherwill the tendency to sleep around. Your anger at your spouse will be quick torise but also quick to fade as they provide you with plausible but all toofamiliar lies about how difficult their life has been and become. In order toplacate and sooth this person, you back down, drop your defenses and assume thesupportive role. Very common. Staying is not suggested given the deception thatcomes so easily but only you can decide what your personal limitations are.Letting go of a spouse or partner, even a deceptive one, is not as easy as mostpeople think it is. Still the fact remains - leaving will help you avoid morepain. Tell yourself and treat yourself like you are worthy of the best. Don’tsettle because of the other person’s guilt trips. Once you enter into this withthe knowledge that you are indeed the other woman; you are no longer able to call yourself an innocent party. You become an enabler to the cheater, and open yourself up for a world of hurt and despair. Drop the deadbeat and move on to someone who will be honest and trustworthy. Someone who respects who you areand gives you a live that you deserve.