I found out my boyfriend lied to me about being separated. his wife contacted me and told me he had cheated on her for years and with more than one woman at a time. she said everything he told me was a lie and that they had been married for 20 years, never separated, and cheating with me made their marriage stronger. she was so nonchalant about it, but I am heartbroken. he has not contacted me since, and I am sick about the whole thing and mad as hell at being duped, and lied to. what should I do now?
Perhaps it will help you get over your feelings of betrayal by realizing how fortunate you are to NOT be married to this guy. For one moment, allow yourself to reflect on how little respect he has for his wife and count your blessings that you are not in her shoes. No matter how much she professes to have a great relationship with her husband; the bottom line is that he obviously doesn't have the same high regard for her. Try to focus on how much better your life will be without his BS and KNOW that absolutely and completely; you are worth more than to be treated the way he has treated you. YOU ARE WORTHY of a great two-sided relationship that has a good balance of love, trust and mutual respect. Each day that passes, you will be better and stronger AND wiser, Be strong! Best wishes to you.